When a peacock likes another peacock, what does he do? Fluff up his plumes, strut around? When a 6 year old likes his classmate, what does he do? Pull her pigtails perhaps or poke her by suprise? In middle school, this might evolve to the furtive glances from behind a friend, accompanied with the giggle-retreat-giggle-advance ritual. High school is a bit more direct as the hormones are peaking ; any eye contact, half conversation, dance or video game contest may be a signal to have sex. College has the great selection factor; there is less strutting and more of the middle of the night-under the influence of alcohol-honest-"I really like you"-dorm room single bed snuggling-vulnerable approach. Grad school becomes more pragmatic and courtship is reduced to sex breaks with study partners.
So what does courtship look like now? Fellow at the local coffee shop teases me mercilessly, the adult version of pulling pigtails. Clearly he missed the memo that says you don't have to tease a girl to get her attention. Now, I'm going out on a limb here, but he could just try the direct approach....hey, its good to see you this morning. Or.......oh, I don't know, how about "good morning"......."How about breakfast?"..........."how are you today".......nothing fancy.
Perhaps I'm missing something--it wasn't fun to have my pigtails pulled then and it isn't fun now either! It just tells me the guy is too chicken-shit for the post-graduate level Advanced Courtship Ritual Series.
